At first glance, it feels like a simple preference issue. You’re paying for the fence, you’re living with it every day, so why shouldn’t the “pretty” side face your yard? Many homeowners assume this is purely aesthetic, and couples often disagree about it for that exact reason. But fences aren’t just visual boundaries—they’re structural, legal, and social ones too. That’s why this debate comes up so often, and why people are surprised to learn that, in many places, there actually is a “correct” way to install a fence.

Traditionally, the finished or “good” side of a fence faces outward toward neighbors or the street, while the posts and rails face inward. This practice developed for a few reasons. Structurally, it allows the fence owner easier access for maintenance and repairs. Socially, it’s considered polite—your neighbors see the nicer side, not the exposed framework. In many communities, this became an unspoken standard long before modern fencing materials existed.

What many people don’t realize is that some local building codes and homeowners’ associations explicitly require the finished side to face outward. Installing it the opposite way can cause disputes, fines, or demands to rebuild. Even where it’s not legally enforced, neighbors may see the “ugly side” facing them as a sign of hostility or carelessness, which can strain relationships for years. That’s why contractors often default to outward-facing finishes unless told otherwise.

That said, there are exceptions. If the fence is purely decorative, shared by agreement, or enclosed entirely within your property, you may have flexibility. Some modern fences are designed to look identical on both sides, eliminating the issue altogether. Others are installed with written neighbor consent, making orientation a mutual decision rather than a rule. Context matters more than many people expect.

So yes—your husband isn’t imagining things. In many cases, there is a correct way to install a fence, and it’s not just about looks. Before choosing sides, it’s smart to check local codes, HOA rules, and talk with your neighbors. A fence lasts decades, and getting this detail wrong can create problems far bigger than an argument about which side looks better.